The one person I look to for communication guidance is my husband (LaMar). I admire the way he is able to walk up to someone he does not know and become immediate friends. This can happen in a store, on a bus, at a community function, or wherever he seems to be. He has the ability to make people feel comfortable and can often change their somber or angry moods to pleasant and happy ones.
He teaches at an alternative school, where you need to have much finesse when working with wayward teenagers. He seems to understand each individual, their situation and is able to take the majority of them from low self-esteem to knowing they have the ability in making their lives worthwhile.
I believe the reason he has so much success with people is he accepts them for who they are and where they are at that very moment in their lives. He genuinely likes people and cares about what happens to them.
When he participates in conversations with people, he always makes the conversation about the person he is talking to, not about himself. He has enough confidence and self-esteem that he does not have to “toot his own horn”. People are usually drawn to those who want to know about them. This is especially true for people who need a self-esteem boost.
I am always watching LaMar’s relaxed mannerisms as he engages with people and how he smiles with his mouth and eyes. Body language is such a great magnet in attracting people to enhance relationships.
I am working towards a more relaxed me as I strive to be a positive influence in all my relationships.
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Hi Sally
I am learning to be more relaxed when taking to others. I have been looking and talking to people to see what is different in their communications and mines so that I can be a better communicator. I always wandered how does some people just draw other people to them. This course is teaching me that it is the way you communicate with others. Thanks for sharing about your husband.
Sally, you have reminded me why I love Chess and Thomas and the Temperaments and Howard Gardner's Multiple Intelligences so very much.
When people talk about child development theory, I don't reflect on Piaget or Erikson or Vygotsky so much as Chess and Thomas and Gardner.
I also had the privilege and challenge of working with "at risk" youth. I think your husband deserves a hug from you... when he least expects it of course!
Hello Sally,
I really admire your husband and the work that he does. I believe that if we can accept people for who they are, than we can coomunicate with them more openly. We have to understand that we all are human with emotions and we deserve to be talked to with respect. But your husband and the work that he does gives youn people inspiration as they go through their young lives.
Great Post!
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